eSpecially Ben

Get Ready...March 24, 2012 **Amazing Race has been cancelled as of 2/16/12.**

 Ben receiving his medal. The lump in my throat and the tears welling up in my eyes is a recurring experience for me at any Special Olympics event. We arrived early and Ben was not even at the bowling alley, but I was fighting back tears. Luckily Logan was with me to keep me in line - he wanted to play video games while we waited for Ben's bus to arrive. A mom crying at the bowling alley before the games even began would have made for an interesting tale. This is the first year Ben could officially compete in the Special Olympics. The school organized the practices and coordinated with the county division of Special Olympics. I am unsure how it all works, but Ben bowled today. The national anthem was played to a crowd of over 100 students, teachers and volunteers at the local bowling alley. The athletes repeated the Special Olympics Oath: “Let me win, but if I can not win, let me be brave in the attempt.” It was not the torch or a billion dollar fireworks show, b

Just found this playground about 20 minutes from our house - it has adaptive equipment. This see-saw is great for working on balance and building core strength. Ben doesn't realize he's working because he's focused on playing with brothers and Grandma.

The operative word in the title is "may". Only people with a certain sense of humor will find this funny, and who are not Vanessa and Steve. Before Christmas, we received a large box in the mail addressed to "Vanessa and Steve". My husband's name is Ryan, but a simple mistake was not going to stop us from opening up a present. Although excited to rip open the package, we slowed down to read the card. It read, " Hope you have a wonderful holiday! And good luck on that happily ever after stuff ." It was signed by Ryan's long-time friend and jokester, John. We receive packages and letters from John every so often. One year, he wrote an entire letter in Old English. Another time he sent a brochure of a building he and Ryan had renovated 20 years ago with captions about memories they had during the project. We had no idea what to think when we unwrapped the bubble wrap and saw, a large pottery plate painted with a bride and groom and t

The last 6 months have been tough for me physically. I mentioned cysts and stress fractures last fall and now I have a new ailment that may be chronic and is extremely painful...and ummm personal. So I will not get into gory details, just that my comfort level can prevent me from being 100% at times. After putting off the inevitable, I have to see the specialist. My 2012 goals: Get back to exercising, cut back when I need the rest and get through this new ailment with grace. * Love my "R" words? Got them from Unusual R Words

Anger, hurt feelings, confusion and ignorance surround the word "retarded". Many good posts have been written about experiences with the word. There's even a day to raise awareness and educate people about why it is not an acceptable way to describe things that are dumb or stupid. People who use  retarded to describe a situation, saying or person, that in their opinion is stupid, do not realize that they are unwittingly applying a negative definition to retarded. Ben is mentally retarded. It is okay to use those words in that context. There is a move to use different words like cognitively delayed and intellectually disabled because of the negative connotation mentally retarded has been given over the past several decades. I think most people who use the word retarded or retard do so because it is something they have always said. Sometimes a bit of education and an effort to break a bad habit is all it takes. So spread the word, stop using the word in the wrong con

Lately when pushing Ben in his wheelchair, people I know, say hello to me and not to Ben. And if you are thinking, they might be saying hello to both of us, think again. They are using the words, "Hi Vanessa." And yes, they know Ben's name. It is easy to depersonalize a situation when someone is in a device that is passive, like a stroller or wheelchair. I do believe that if Ben was in his walker, he'd be acknowledged. I have not figured out a diplomatic way to handle this yet, but I will. If you have a suggestion, feel free to send it my way.