Skip to main content

Especially Parents September Edition: Schools and Education



This month the writers for the eSpecially Parents series will focus on their child’s experience with schools and the educational system.

I have written a lot about Ben’s experiences at school. For the most part we have been very happy with his teachers, staff and academics. In preparing to write this post, I thought about why we have had good experiences and what went wrong when we did not. Here are three areas that I think help to summarize why we continue to be happy with the public school system.

  1. Expertise - I know that I am an expert on Ben because I have known him the longest and involved with every detail of his life, but I also value that the people working with Ben are most likely experts about how to best teach him. They are trained in educating children with needs such as Ben and have special techniques that work.  I begin with the assumption that they went into this field because they have a love for this particular profession and the work that they do.
  2. Relationships – Building positive relationships with everyone at the school helps when things are good, but also when things get rough, I already have something in place. Communication is easier when trust has already been built. It has to be a partnership between our family and the school - everyone has a difficult job to do and if we consider ourselves as a team, it can only help Ben.
  3. Involvement – I find a way to get involved at the school that Ben attends – anything from PTA to helping the teacher with the newsletter. Even if I am too busy to volunteer, sending emails to stay in touch is helpful too. Teachers have a tough job and any help from a parent is usually welcomed. When they request information or supplies, I make sure that I do my part in a timely manner.
When I started writing this post, all was good with Ben's school and class. Just days ago, I found out that Ben's teacher is leaving due to personal reasons. My biggest concern, and a time I can recall when Ben's school experience was terrible, is when there was inconsistency with staff. Although it appears that they have a plan in place for staff, my radar is up. I will need to be more aware of Ben's reaction to the school bus's arrival, what information is sent home and stay in contact with the principal. Although I am not a fan of surprise visits to the school, I will do what is necessary to feel comfortable with Ben's situation.

What things have you tried to help your family have a good experience with the school system?



If you have not seen the eSpecially Parents series, get more information here.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Parenting an Adult Child with Disabilities

  "Parenting an Adult Child with Disabilities" is a series on eSpeciallyBen. As Ben approached 18, it was clear our role changed as parents. We needed to help Ben transition into adulthood. These stories are meant to assist other families who face, or will face, some of the same challenges. Talking About the Future Guest Post - Matt Wilson Legal Guardianship, Medicaid and SSI Researching Group Homes Questions to Ask at a Group Home Visit Referral Packet for Group Homes Getting Assistance from a Care Manager From Group Home Placement to Discharge Reaching for Independence

He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother

After my post, Brotherly Love , I received an email from a reader who reminded me of this song. I knew the song, but had never really thought about the words and the meaning behind them. I looked it up and thought others might see the lyrics in a new light.   He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother The road is long With many a winding turn That leads us to who knows where Who knows when But I'm strong Strong enough to carry him He ain't heavy, he's my brother. So on we go His welfare is of my concern No burden is he to bear We'll get there For I know He would not encumber me If I'm laden at all I'm laden with sadness That everyone's heart Isn't filled with the gladness Of love for one another. It's a long, long road From which there is no return While we're on the way to there Why not share And the load Doesn't weigh me down at all He ain't heavy, he's my brother. He's my brother He ain't h

Make this Race Amazing

Mecklenburg County's Therapeutic Recreation's Amazing Race is Saturday, March 24, 2012. All funds raised go directly to the scholarship fund for summer camp. Summer Camp is 8 weeks long with over 150 children with special needs participating. Last year, over $6,500 was given away in scholarships. In times of budget cuts and loss of resources, Amazing Race is a creative way for the staff to raise money for the children who may need financial assistance attending camp. I will be posting photos from 2011 camp. I am only posting photos that do not show faces of the children, but you will get the idea about how much they enjoy the activities. You don't have to see their smiles, you just have to feel them. The staff have sent me their thoughts on how they feel about camp and I will be posting those as well. Most are trained as recreational therapists and have devoted their life's work to helping children and adults with special needs learn skills, make friends, de