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eSpecially Parents August Edition: Donna's Story

Change in family and friends is a topic near and dear to my heart.

I've always had a supportive immediate family.  I have an older sister and brother, and my parents just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary.  After having Ben we seem to be more of a pack now (more protective of one another).  If something is going on with my nieces, it's common for all of us to show up where they are, unannounced. 

It's refreshing because if one of us doesn't have the energy to deal with the situation, the others will.  That's the ultimate support to me.  It simply means that we are always aware of the issues because of continuous communication.

Some of my family members have surprised me because I never thought they would want to have anything to do with Ben, but have ended up being the "motivated helpers" as I call them.  When I pull up, they are at the car to help. 

Concerning friends, they are few and far between.  If I can't talk to them on the phone for an hour about nothing (of course it's only suppose to take a minute), go with them on a minutes notice, or leave Ben at home instead of taking him with me, I don't hear from them.

The people I'm now meeting are more sensitive and respectful of my challenges if I have Ben with me.  They also have children who want Ben to join them.  I'm so very grateful for them.

Things are looking good.

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