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Support Troops on Their Way

This past week we found out that we were accepted to receive services from the state through a special program. We have been on the waiting list for many years, and we are so thankful that Ben's name finally came to the top of the list. It comes at a crucial time when we are feeling that his safety may be compromised if he is left alone and unattended for any amount of time. Our stress levels were beginning to stay in the "red zone" more often than not. The relief I feel now is unbelievable - a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

My mom had a taste of what it is like with Ben this past week when she visited. I asked her to watch Ben while he was in the bathtub. She sat not four feet from him, playing a game of Trouble with Ben's younger brother, Logan. Without anyone hearing him, Ben got out of the tub and was next to Grandma before she even realized it. Yes, he is that quick, agile and quiet. At least she knows I am not making up the stories I share with her.

If you are a parent or caregiver of a child with special needs, be sure to investigate all options for services. Never assume you do not qualify. You may feel up to the task now as caregiver, but things change - situations get more difficult. Get on those lists now because it could take years for your number to be called. Follow-up with your case managers, stay in touch with the agencies who may provide services and make sure they know who you are. And as always, be sure to send a photo of your sweet baby for them to keep in their file!


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  1. ChildlifeFebruary 1, 2010 at 12:15 AM

    So glad to hear you've made it to the top of the waiting list!

    Ben sure is a cutie -- that smile of his gets me every time (although, now that you mention it I DO believe I see a mischevious twinkle in those eyes!) ;)

    ~Michelle @ 5MFSN

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  2. MarieFebruary 1, 2010 at 11:01 AM

    Great advice and I'm glad that you are going to get some help!

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